The One Theory Conversation

 Okay, so these are the results to a facebook status I wrote to get people talking.  I am in the process of writing an entry that hopefully will shed some light on "The One" theory.

As a forward to this next entry, I'll give you a feel for what my entry is going to be about:
 I DO believe that you can choose whomever, to marry.  HOWEVER.  There's an exception to that rule, and that is intercession.

This Conversation sparked some thinking and the Lord corrected my thinking on this whole thing, and I'd like to share that with you!

MORE coming soon,   Sarah.

Sarah:  I kinda want to spark a little controversy. What is everyones thoughts on 'the One' theory? Does God handpick a person out for us or is it our choice


Cathy:  Every person in your path today is there for a purpose.


Stephanie: Both.I truly believe He handpicks.I truly believe its our choice whether to accept and receive His handpicked choice


Cathy:  Oh but this may not be "mate day" lol


Robyn: I don't think it's an either or. depending on your faith I think it will be either or. I find that once in a marriage, He is causing us to see ourselves more intently.


Jonathan:   If God handpicked one person.. What would it mean if we missed it somehow? Could we even miss that! Is God laying out this path of life that we will inevitably walk down? Is there THE ONE and can we still marry THE TWO?l


Liz:  He chooses the One for us. That's why we never have good luck in relationships in the beginning then eventually find our soul mate. Each person we date is one step closer to the person He has chosen for us.


Jonathan:  And then the age old question.. Of God hand picks THE ONE and then that person is crushed by a falling piano.. Does God have to pick out another ONE? Was that 2nd ONE always chosen because God planned for a piano to fall on number ONE?


Camisa:  I am wondering this too, sara faith. I don't know the answer.


Liz:  Very thought-provoking, Jonathan! :)


Jonathan:  And then you have people who met THE ONE and then THE ONE married someone else.. Oh that is harsh!


Liz:   And that's where THE ONE, Part Deux comes in :)


Jonathan:  If you get killed by a falling piano... It was meant to be. Even more so if you get crushed by a falling whale and then survive. And then out of its belly stumbles a rebellious prophet and you two live happily ever after.


This is the thread where all the singles can chat about fate and then meet and then date and then celebrate when they (get married and then) mate whereby they create more people to wonder if they should exist or not because what if Dad wasn't Moms THE ONE? And mom and dad had kids that never shouldve existed? And then THOSE kids have kids. Omg!


Liz:  I shall be looking for falling whales from now on, lol!


James:   I agree with what Stephanie said way up there at the top. I think God does have a specific person for us to marry, but I think it is up to us to find that one person. Kind of a like a treasure hunt if you know what I mean :)


Robyn: I like Jonathan! He's a "thinker". Marriage is not for the whimp that's for sure!


Liz:  Very awesome analogy, James! :)


Robyn:   How about .. we need to "BE" the One.


Mary Bres***:  what if Sara, we just pursue The One...Jesus and see what happens along the way? perhaps the desire to find some human mate is sidetracking us from the main goal in this life to know The One True God. marriage is great but it is not the ultimate purpose of this life on earth. I've seen way too many people make it their one thing! marriage is a help in making us holy...it is not to make us happy. Our joy is in God alone! so if along the "path" you meet someone who helps to make you holy then perhaps this is the one! And Jonathan if they get crushed by some flying piano, then maybe there will be another who will help us to be holy.....or maybe we just need to live in the Spirit to be holy...let the mystery continue


Jonathan:  Hmm.. I think we (sons of Adam or daughters of Eve) tend often to make decisions based on: how we feel, or: how it will hopefully make us feel.. Which isn't a horrible thing, feeling good that is.. Tho marriage is not about making us happy.. Its about glorifying God.. Which is very Merry making thing.. I'm still quite influenced by what my eyes see and feelers feel.. I don't pray to marry The One as much as I pray to love the one I marry.


Camisa: "I don't pray to marry 'the one' as much as I pray to love the one I marry"  nice Jonathan!


Robyn:  GREAT STUFF HERE ALL! Sarah?! You must be very happy with the comments. I know I am..


Lynn Marie:   

You! Stir up controversy!?! :) I personally think there are a nice size handful of 'the one' that God can match you up with. If there was only one 'one' that could cause a problem if someone marries the wrong person. I think it more has to do with the type of person God wants you to marry (spiritually and emotionally).

The ultimate part of it all is making sure you are marrying who God says to. There could be 100 guys out there that could be 'right' for you; it's more about making sure God gives you the 'green light'. God shapes and refines people through marriage; even in the best marriages it's like that. We have a fairy tale idea of marriage in the United States and because of movies.

Robyn: 

 Amen Sister Friend (Lynn Marie). Amen

Lynn R:  God guides you but gave you the abilities to think for yourself. The rules are there to follow and the choices are yours

Joseph M: there's a certain chemistry that limits your selections, which may be set in place by God. However, I think that like government rulers, God and the Bible are not so concern how you got there as what you do once you are there.

Andrea:  my pastor says we choose...and choosing wisely is critical. "The selection process" counselors say. next question...should it be the job of friends/older believers to introduce people to each other or is that the job of e-harmony?

Jeff: "The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be MARRIED TO WHOM SHE WILL; only in the Lord" - 1 Cor 7:39

Andrea: @Jeff Utzler Way to go to the Word..

Ryan W:  never heard of this theory but I doubt it...I agree with Jeff...

Ania W: that theory only creates a controversy if you put God on our level and limit him in time..... like we are limited. if you don't i think for Him it might be both at the same time..... :-) He is God afterall...

Sarah:  "ONLY IN THE LORD" didn't anyone catch that part of the scripture? The idea is that we have God's best for us. Some people believe that whatever we choose is God's best for us... except that God brings people in and out of our lives as He pleases. Man plans his ways but God directs his steps. That proverb has never been truer in my life. But I also believe that you must ASK for God's best. If you prefer choosing things yourself, then by all means, it could be a hit or a miss. I'd prefer God's best for me in His time. Thats my conviction. I refuse to have anything less. Whatever ya'lls convictions are, go for em as long as they're based on whats true and not because you have an unbiblical, slightly cynical and jaded view. All of us can get caught up in whats false because of past disappointments. God's been teaching me lately that even though I've been disappointed, not to let that sway what is true in my heart. Those are my thoughts.

Jeff:  You can marry whoever you as long as they're a Christian(I.e. "in the Lord) there is no such thing as "special someone"