Excuses, Excuses - Dating, Breakups & Freedom

Behold, You delight in truth in the inward being, and You teach me wisdom in the secret heart.

 – Psalm 51:6

 This conversation takes place a few years ago. The setting?  The briefing room.

 Sitting in this quiet side room after a 2 hour prayer set, my friend and I began to discuss an issue that had been plaguing my thought life. Leaning back, my face slowly began to contort in frustrated thought as my friend creatively doodled on the dry-erase board.

“Sarah… what’s wrong with him liking you?”

“Nothing’s wrong with him liking me.”

“So why don’t you give him a chance?”

“Um.  No.”

“Why not?”

“He’s younger than me by a year.  He’s still in school.   He doesn’t have a car...  

He’s just… not right for me.”

“But you said it yourself.  He’s saying all the right things.  He’s doing all the right things.  He’s the kind of guy you’ve been hoping for.”

“Yeah.  But he’s younger than me.  I’m more mature than him.”

“Wooow.  You’re being pretty critical right now… and those aren’t necessarily good reasons.  All that stuff is something he can grow in.”

“I just… don’t LIKE HIM LIKE THAT, OKAY?”

“Aaaaahhh!!! NOW we’re getting somewhere!”

A Modest Heart: The Truth About Women, Dressing and Modesty

“Likewise, I want women to adorn themselves with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly garments, but rather by means of good works, as is proper for women making a claim to godliness.”  1 Timothy 2:9-10

“Your adornment must not be merely external – braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit which in God’s sight is very precious.”  1 Peter 3:3-4

Hello dear readers!

Today I will be writing about a subject I've become passionate about over the past year: modesty, beauty and a woman’s heart.

Before I go further, I'd like to make it very clear that this post is meant for introspection.  I've had some question if I mean that we can judge where women's hearts are by what they wear.  I do not believe this at all.  Each woman is different and we cannot judge what we see because we do not see as God sees.  This post is meant to turn the focus on to our own hearts before the Lord and to suggest outward expression of an established inward truth. 

If any of you follow me on Twitter, Instagram or even Facebook, you have probably noticed my outfit-of-the-day collages and my excited notations on color-mixes and patterns and designs.  I LOVE coming up with new ways to wear the old things with the new things and being sneaky about wearing the SAME things two days in a row.  It’s like sharing a new discovery!  AND - Its inspiration!  I’ve decided that part of my calling as a woman of God is to be a well dressed one. I am called to be a woman who by wearing her heart on her sleeve can invite others into a new realm of God’s glory by sharing her feminine beauty and creativity.

 I’ve read many a blog and heard many a talk about the subject of modesty as a churched girl.  What I’ve found interesting is that I’ve never heard it spoken of with quite the perspective I’m about share.

To start off, let me offer my definition for The Christian Modesty Rule.

The Christian Modesty Rule:  an unwritten (or maybe written) set of expectations and standards for what is appropriate to wear and not to wear both inside church and (apparently) outside of the church as well.

I will start by sharing a story of the first time I violated said rule.

Luke 7:36-49 - Poem

Luke 7:36-49 

by Sarah Faith

With tears that stain
her heart of shame
she brought to Him
her most precious thing


She entered in
to the screaming sound
of judging eyes
with faith most profound.


With submissive air
and in no way proud
this darling girl
poured her whole life out.


Though battered and broken
within her sin
deeply she loved
and much was forgiv`n.